Hello! Welcome to another episode. This is habit number six from the 7-part series, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Feel Good English Podcast helping you improve your life through inspiring, practical life skills-building and business skills-building lessons.

This episode, this habit called synergize is all about the benefits of being able to work with others, specifically working well with people that you might not like, you might not understand, you might not get along with. And not only how to work well with people that you don’t want to work with or that you don’t like, but also, the reason why you should be learning how to better work and cooperate with people who you might not see eye-to-eye with, who you might not share a lot of common ideas and thoughts and opinions and values with.

However, if you learn some tactics on how to better work with others, how to bring people onto your team even if you don’t like them, you will see bigger and better ideas and results come your way.

I think it’s possible to be able to get past our emotions and opinions of others and work as a responsible adult and figure out ways to go about things. So, let’s get into the lesson.

Habit six, synergize. Synergize, that’s a cool word, huh? A quick summary of synergy, by understanding and valuing the differences in another person’s perspective, we have an opportunity to create synergy which allows us to uncover new possibilities through openness and creativity. Synergy, things working together, flowing together, synergizing.

And the whole purpose of this is this is group dynamics stuff, so multiple people working together at school or at work or wherever, synergizing the dynamic of this group. That’s what this habit is about.

The purpose of this is to create new opportunities, to bring great results, to bring massive, impressive results to thing. And if this is something you’re interested in, and something you’re trying to do, getting a group of people together and synergizing, this group will bring unbelievable, awesome results. People will be able to work together. You’ll be able to work with people you don’t like so much. You figure out how to deal with them. And you’ll figure out the value they can’t bring. If you don’t like them, it doesn’t mean they can’t bring value to your projects, to your work, to your success.

Learning how to deal with people that you don’t like, learning how to synergize and how to bring out the best of others will help you succeed as well.

And why does this happen? Big results come from when synergy happens. Why? People are working together with different perspectives, different ideas, different solutions to problems. And instead of just judging them and not agreeing with them, we’re able to understand where they’re coming from and take pieces of their ideas and use what they have to offer to improve what we have to offer as well.

So, it’s people working together with diverse values or beliefs or views, and learning how to work with all these people in coming up with bigger solutions, bigger-than-yourself solutions because you can only do so much on your own. Figuring out how to bring in other perspectives will help you get even bigger results.

So, how do we do this? How do we create synergy if you’re in an office with a bunch of people you don’t like and everybody fights, you can’t imagine people working together with the common goals? Well, the habits from four and five work for this. What you have to do in an environment is you have to build trust among the members of the group. Habits four and five help you buid trust, seeking to understand other people, knowing that it’s not a competition where there’s only one reward and you’re fighting for that one reward. If that person wins, you lose, and vice versa. Creating trust so people feel safe in the environment and they can start opening up and start sharing what they want to bring to the table.

By putting forth a spirit of trust and safety, we will prompt others to become extremely open and feed on each other’s insights and ideas, creating synergy. Learn how to create trust among people. Learn how to be open, not to judge, creates synergy amongst group members. Learn how to take different perspectives to build bigger things, to improve on things.

And finishing here, the real essence of synergy is valuing the differences, the mental, emotional and psychological differences between people. If two people have the same opinion, one is unecessary. But if you get a variety of opinions, people with different perspectives, then you could say, “Good, that’s a very interesting perspective. Let me try to understand your perspective. We can combine them and maybe come up with something very creative.”

We’re talking creativity here. We seek first to understand and then we find strength in different perspectives and to create new possibilities and to create win-win relationships. So, they win, you win, everybody wins. Yehey!

Also, you can catalyze creativity and find solutions that are better for everyone by looking for third alternatives. It’s not yours, not theirs, a third alternative that might utilize both sides, both ideas, combining them together to come up with something better. “Combining together to come up with something better,” hey, that rhymes, huh?

And here we are with some vocabulary from this episode. Here’s an expression, bring to the table. “What does he have to bring to the table?” Another word you could use for bring to the table is offer. “What does he have to offer? What does he have to offer? What does he have to offer our company? What does he have to bring to the table?”

Prompt means fast, in a rush, quickly. We need to do this promptly, we need to do this quickly, we need to do this fast, prompt. P-R-O-M-P-T, prompt, opposite of slowly. In this case, we’ll be prompt. He’s always very prompt with his work. He does it quickly, on time.

Also, put forth, to put forth is to exert effort, to put in necessary effort, put in the effort necessary to achieve something, to get something done. “He never puts forth the right amount of effort. He never puts forth… he never exerts himself. He doesn’t try hard enough.”

So, that’s it for this lesson on synergize. How do we synergize? Well, first, we need to build trust and learn how to communicate with others empathetically, again, using habits four and five. Both of those will build skills necessary to put you in an environment where synergy is possible.

All of these habtis from this book, learning how to work with one helps another. So it’s a complete  skill set, you could say.

So, synergy is something more that you’ll feel and you’ll find through practicing other habits, being open-minded, finding how to use people around you for the benefit of all, learning how to work with others that are difficult to work with in order to bring the good parts of them or of their abilities (whatever those may be, there’s something good there) to bring that to create bigger and better things.

And leaving you with a joke, what is an astronaut’s favorite place on a computer? The spacebar!

See you next time.