13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do by Amy Morin

13 Things That Can Make You Mentally Strong

While the advancements in technology have made our lives easier, it has, however, alienated us from our true values and distanced us from establishing real, healthy relationships.

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “13 Things Mentally-Strong People Don’t Do” by Amy Morin,
a licensed psychotherapist and best-selling author whose book has attracted a worldwide following
and has been translated into 20 languages.

The book shows us things that we can do to become mentally strong, especially in the face of adversity or in times of hardships.
The book also tells us that mental health is just as important as physical strength.

Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend of yours or a family member,
be kind with yourself, it is not your responsibility to keep other people happy for they can only control their own thoughts.

The Main Points

  • Strong-minded people do not expect instant results. Perseverance is key as good things take time.
  • Stop yourself from being jealous and envious of others, be grateful of what you do have.
  • You do not need to please everyone. Stay true to your values by learning how to say no to certain situations that go against your standards.
  • Allow yourself real solitude when you relax: Go for a walk, meditate, or read books instead of browsing Facebook or Instagram and getting worked up with the lives of others.
  • Don’t lose sight of your values based on what you think is cool or popular online.
  • Focus on your goals, success is not something that happens overnight. Hard work, patience, and focus will bring you the success that you are looking for.

The Vocab & Expressions

  • Tap into: to connect with something or to understand something, to put mental energy into something to connect with it, so you can use the resource for what it is.
  • By default: an automatic response to a stimulus.
  • Rat race: a way of life in which people are caught up in a fiercely competitive struggle for wealth or power; an exhausting, usually competitive routine.
  • Envy: the act of wanting something somebody else has.
  • Resentment: anger towards somebody, a bitter indifference for being treated unfairly.
  • To lose touch: to forget something, to cease correspondence with something or someone.
  • Intern: a student or trainee who works, sometimes without pay, at a trade or occupation in order to gain work experience
  • Burnt out: the state of emotional, physical and mental exhaustion caused by excessive or prolonged stress.
  • White lie: a harmless or trivial lie, especially one told to avoid hurting someone’s feelings.

The Joke

Yo mama’s so fat when God said, “Let there be light,” he said to your mom, “Hey, excuse me. Step out of the way please.”

*Originating from an African-American oral tradition, Playing by the Dozens, where contestants traded insults until the other party couldn’t respond or got angry. The joke, where it can often be misogynistic or rude, is not literally an insult to one’s mother instead is supposed to describe an imaginative person with the said characteristics.

Here, the mom is so fat, God had to ask her to move out fo the way because she was blocking the light to the entire universe.